Apr 16

When Positive Thinking is Not Useful


Positive thinking about something negative causes mental pain. And yet, it’s what self-help experts have told us to do for decades. If I had a dollar for every time I read or heard someone say “think positively”, I’d be on the Forbes list of 100 richest people in the world. Think about it for two seconds. When you have tried to think positively about something that is not positive, has it made the situation better? Has it resolved the situation at all? Did you feel weaker about the situation in the long run? If haven’t mastered one or more suppression tools like denial, lying to yourself, suppressing, shutting down, numbing or forgetting, your answer would be “yes”.

The bottom line is: to avoid mental pain, you don’t want to think positively about something negative, and you don’t want to suppress the negative. You want to be strongly neutral to anything and everything so it doesn’t weaken you. Strengthen yourself to what is true and then handle it!